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Monday, October 28, 2013

Crazy Good

My four-year-old has always been very verbal and he knows that words are his weapon. And boy, does he use them! One day it was complaint after complaint after complaint. I honestly wasn’t even listening to him anymore by the time dinner rolled around. My husband was working late (again) so it was just the kids and I. I gave the baby her cut up dinner and then grabbed my son’s plate from the kitchen. I put it down in front of him and geared up for a meal full of whining and complaining. I sat down next to him and we began to eat our dinner. Then, he shocked me. After a few bites he said, “Mom, this dinner is crazy good.” I was so surprised! After all, it was only macaroni and cheese. From a box. I learned two things in that moment. 

1. Don’t expect the worst from others. I expected a bad attitude from my son but I was the one with the bad attitude. If you look for the bad then you’ll always see it. If you look for the good then it will be more obvious as well. I love the quote by Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe that says, "Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and you help them to become what they are capable of being." It's a little wordy but I think is very applicable to the job of mothering our children. It's our job to help our children become the best people they can be. 

2. Lock in the good memories for the bad days. This was the most important thing I learned. Several weeks have passed since this “crazy good” dinner took place and I have replayed in my mind the compliment my son paid me for the simple meal. Replaying it helps me remember that he is sweet and kind and thoughtful. It helps me remember that I do get it right occasionally. 

Focus on the good and take a mental picture or video of your children doing something great. Keep it locked in so you can replay this video when it’s been a rough day. It will realign your train of thought and remind you that parenting really is a crazy good job.


Wednesday, October 23, 2013


Crittenton Hospital Baby Fair

If you have a child under the age of 5 at home, you will want to attend the Crittenton Hospital Baby Fair. Most of the vendors are geared towards parents with preschool age children and younger but there will be vendors such as The Funky Frog, New York Life and Independent Expressions that will interest parents with children of all ages. The Rochester Hills Fire Department will be there to do car seat safety checks as well. Don’t forget to get your chair massage from Health & Healing Chiropractic. This year you can even bring your kids to participate in a Halloween costume contest, have their faces painted and play in the Shelby Fire Station bounce house. 

I went last year and loved connecting with different vendors to explore their products and information. It can be difficult to go shopping when you have little ones so it’s very convenient to have all these people lined up, waiting to share with you. The vendor list is even longer this year than last year so I’m really excited to go. 

Get excited because look at all these wonderful vendors:

Children’s Choice Learning Center
Barnes & Noble Booksellers
Shelby Township Fire Department-Bounce House
Nutrilife
Babies R Us
Professional Breastfeeding Support 
Rochester Bike Shop
Pocholin Children’s Shoes
Taylor & Chloe
Pei Wei
TruBlue Total House Care 
Mothers & More
New York Life
Michigan Child Identification Program
Dinosaur Hill Nature Preserve
The Funky Frog
Oakland County Moms
Whole Foods
Revitalizing  Touch
doTERRA essential oils
Rochester Hills Fire Department-Car Seat Safety Checks
Oakland Steiner School
Women’s Excellence Center of Midwifery
HdC Designs
Kidz 1st Pediatrics
Health & Healing Chiropractic-Chair Massages
Purple Bear
Miss Margee 
Macaroni Kid
The Health Connection of Rochester
Oakland County Health Department
Independent Expressions
Crittenton Community Health & Education
Infant Massage

The Baby Fair will be held this Saturday, October 26 from 10am-1pm. For more detailed information visit http://crittenton.com/event-registration/?regevent_action=register&event_id=749

Tuesday, October 22, 2013

The Hand That Rocks the Cradle Rules the World

The Hand That Rocks The Cradle Rules the World. You probably have heard this expression before - or maybe not - it is a rather old expression when motherhood really was celebrated.  It means, the person who is raising the children is influencing tomorrow's world leaders.  Think about it.  Do you think President Obama's mother knew she was raising the 44th President of the U.S.A?  Do you think  Beyonce's mother knew that she was raising one of the greatest singers of this generation?  Do you think actress, Scarlett Johansson's mother knew she was raising a world recognized movie star?  Being a mother is one of the most important jobs in the world - you could be raising the next President of the United States, or the next scientist who finds the cure for cancer, or the next compassionate adult who says a kind word to someone who is contemplating suicide, and because of that kind word, decides life is worth living.  Greatness.  That is what you are doing - raising greatness.  Whether that greatness is a world leader, or a leader in their home and community, motherhood has an amazing impact on the future of our world.

Not only is motherhood important, it is powerful.  You have been blessed with shaping the identity and character of someone who looks to you for direction, wisdom, and most of all love.  By taking time to encourage your children,  correcting  and disciplining them when they are wrong, setting an example of good character, you are helping to shape the leaders of tomorrow - these children will grow up one day and vote.  They will vote to raise or lower your taxes, decide public policy, be the doctor that examines you when you are old. 

When you are feeling overwhelmed, when you are not sure the sacrifice of time and energy are worth it, remember that you are investing in your children's tomorrow, as well as your own.  God is like that too, He invests in us everyday - providing us with unconditional love, a warm hug from our kids, food to eat, and the knowledge that we are never alone.. 

So Moms - Rock that cradle, hug that child, rule your world!

Pat

Sunday, October 13, 2013

The Scrub Brush


I don’t know about you but cleaning the house sure has been tough since baby #2 came along in January. Two kids has been such a challenge for me and alot of my chores haven’t been getting done. Every day I look at my shower and know that it really really really needs a good scrub. I put my scrub brush by the shower sill and said, “Ok, I have got to scrub this shower once the kids go to bed tonight. That’s all I’ll do and then it will be done.” That night rolled around and I was so tired that I completely forgot to scrub the shower. Fast forward to the next morning and I realized that the scrub brush was sitting there while I was in the shower. I grabbed it, squeezed a ton of shower gel on it and went to work. Yes, I cleaned my shower walls with berry scented shower gel. And ya know what? They looked pretty good and smelled great! Life can be like that. Sometimes you don’t have all the right tools but you make do with what you’ve got and the results can be wonderful. It wasn’t my perfect plan and I didn’t have all the right tools but the end result was the same: a clean shower. 

Thought for the week: Since the beginning of time, God has blessed mothers with the ability to get the job done using whatever we have on hand. It may not be our "standard of perfection" but the results are what counts.   We don't have to do everything perfectly to be good moms.  Our children love us anyway and so does God!

Meghan

Saturday, October 5, 2013

Sticky Fingers

Sticky fingers.  Missing homework.  Lunch battles. You know what time it is. Yes, it's back to school time.  Getting everyone out the door on time, with everything they need can be overwhelming on a normal day, but how about the day when your child threw up as you were walking out the door?  Or your toddler ditched all his clothes (like that wonderful commercial) and the temperature is 50 degrees?  You can't take the kid outside like that, can you? Can you?  These are just some of the challenges that Moms face everyday.  Whether you are a working stay at home mom  or a working outside the home mom (I can't get with the "stay-at-home" vs. "work outside the home"descriptions - all moms work. Period. ), you are the babysitter, the nurse, the house keeper, the financial manager, the purchasing director, the teacher, the overseer,  the chauffeur, and the chief cook and bottle washer, as my dad would always say.  If we don't do it all, we do come close.

The good news -  you don't have to do everything or figure out everything yourself.  We are Village Moms, bringing you the 411 on helping you raise your children to be responsible adults while helping you maintain your sanity.   We will have organization tips, parenting advice, recipes, helpful hints, and great conversation.  We believe in supporting and encouraging one another.  We hope you will join in the conversation.   Join us on Facebook - Village Moms.  Please keep all comments respectful, and clean - you know - something your great, great, grandmother would not find offensive or your children. 

Thought for the week:  My mother always said, "Many hands make light work". This John Heywood quote says it all. Raising healthy, well adjusted children takes a village - don't be afraid to ask for help - it will make the load lighter. 

Pat